How to Build Resilient Relationships
Do your emotions get in the way of you having the relationships and life that you want?
Do you avoid important things because you’re afraid that you’ll get overwhelmed or make everything worse?
Are your relationships suffering because you find it hard to act in line with your values when you’re distressed or angry?
If this sounds like you, you’re not alone. In this positive, shame-free guide, DBT therapist Sophia Graham will help you to understand your relationships and inner emotional world, build more resilient connections, and successfully navigate conflict.
With a hands-on approach, this book provides actionable exercises and case studies to help you understand and apply DBT skills in your everyday relationships. From romantic partners to friends, family, care professionals and co-workers, you’ll learn how to improve your relationships in ways that feel meaningful and safe for you.
Do you avoid important things because you’re afraid that you’ll get overwhelmed or make everything worse?
Are your relationships suffering because you find it hard to act in line with your values when you’re distressed or angry?
If this sounds like you, you’re not alone. In this positive, shame-free guide, DBT therapist Sophia Graham will help you to understand your relationships and inner emotional world, build more resilient connections, and successfully navigate conflict.
With a hands-on approach, this book provides actionable exercises and case studies to help you understand and apply DBT skills in your everyday relationships. From romantic partners to friends, family, care professionals and co-workers, you’ll learn how to improve your relationships in ways that feel meaningful and safe for you.
Reviews
Such a rare gem. Dr Graham has not only succeeded in including a range of perspectives that address the experiences of neurodivergent and multiply marginalized folks, but she has also excelled at combining critical insights and practical tools. I love how this book offers ideas, questions for reflections, and things to try out to relate intentionally and skillfully, while not being prescriptive or dogmatic. The expert way in which our physical, mental, emotional, and relational needs are woven together is also invaluable, especially since this type of biopsychosocial approach is hard to find in books on this topic. While it's not the magical instruction manual we might secretly hope for, this book is far more valuable as a gentle, wise, aware, and brilliant companion in the journey towards the resilient connections many of us long for.
Many of us find ourselves in friendships and partnerships which fail to nourish us, or which even repeat patterns that harm us badly. How to Build Resilient Relationships is a much-needed book which returns us to the basic building blocks of how to form and nurture relationships which most of us never learnt growing up. With relatable examples, and encouraging words, Sophia Graham introduces a range of powerful tools for developing our own sense of safety and capacity, and for relating from this place in a boundaried, consensual, and mutual way. Whether you want to find friends, nurture deeper intimacy, move through relationship difficulties, or learn how to repair ruptures, this is the book for you.
How to Build Resilient Relationships offers an intentional, accessible approach to building healthier relationships. I especially appreciate the reflection points throughout, which invite readers to pause, consider their own patterns, and apply what they're learning to their lives. The content is easy to read without sacrificing depth, and each chapter offers practical ways to better understand ourselves and the people we relate to. It's a thoughtful resource for anyone looking to build more meaningful, connected, and effective relationships.
Most of us learned to relate from flawed templates: family, films, guesswork. For neurodivergent people, knowing what you want and what others expect can be harder still. This book offers practical exercises and puts consent, with yourself and with others, first. A clear, usable guide to relationships that last.
Practical and also profound! How to Build Resilient Relationships is a very accessible guide for anyone who has struggled to maintain friendships and partnerships. Graham writes with clarity and compassion and offers readers an engaging way to reflect on their own experiences.